Notes from families are always a pleasure to recieve and remind me of why I continue to do this meaningful and very special work. Thanks to all of the families for their permission to publish their heartfelt words.
To our holder of space
At my initial meeting with Daisy the Doula, I knew I found gold. She held a space for me to find my calm. During my pregnancy in the chats we had, I became aware of things on my mind so got to sort them out. The conversations she held with my husband and me were so useful. We found out what the other felt, wanted, feared and questioned about birth and pregnancy so much more fully than we would have just chatting with each other.
During my birthing, Daisy held the space so my husband could fully look after me and I could zone in on my inner tranquility. Honest. I wanted to love labouring and I actually did. We imagined a home birth. My greatest desire was to feel fully present and active in my labouring no matter how labour played out. I wanted to feel listened to. I did.
My labour lasted for 3 and 1/2 days. I laboured at home for the first 65 ish hours. The atmosphere was calm, playful, light. My baby was angled. We very calmly decided after discussing the Midwife 's recommendation to go hospital where we then decided to have a cesarean section. It was so useful and reassuring for me to have Daisy, a knowledgeable person I trusted, observing my labour and hearing the recommendations. Her presence eased my decision making process. It could have been crazy stressful, but really wasn't.
I had a very positive experience in hospital. My time on the recover ward felt like staying in a hotel!
We had a long and gradual journey to meet our baby. There was joy, play, anticipation, relief, and immense yearning. Daisy held our space so we could hold ourselves.
Connie and Girvan
I am so grateful for Daisy being my partner and I’s Doula for our daughter’s birth. I say our Doula because Daisy supported all of us and it made for such a wonderful experience. I’ve heard that some men think that having a Doula will take away their role. This is the opposite of what happens. She allowed me to be totally present and connected with my partner throughput the process, giving me a nudge to do something that was needed, allaying any fears that came up for me and basically taking care of anything that needed doing to allow me to be in the moment caring for my partner. And she had just the right touch in the more intense moments when my partner needed some extra emotional or physical support. It felt like a team effort with my partner feeling so supported by both of us. I look back on the whole experience with a sense of gratitude and wonder.
We just want to say a BIG THANK YOU for all your support over the past few months and especially during my labour. You are such an amazing, strong, positive woman and your presence was invaluable to me. Thank you also for all the food you prepared/bought (the kohlrabi soup kept us going for quite a while!) - it was delicious and so appreciated, and also for my beautiful, sunny begonia.
With warmest wishes and much love,
To our wonderful doula, Daisy.
To say thank you would just not be enough. You helped me to believe in myself and my body and as a result of that we had the most beautiful birth experience. I think about it everyday. You knew what I wanted in labour when I didn't- what a skill to have! I felt so supported during my pregnancy and birth and your positivity cheered me up no end at times when at times I had wavered in confidence. Thank you so much Daisy, the birth of our beautiful son has healed me in so many ways, I'm so grateful you were a part of it.
Thank you so much for being such a FAB birth support partner. I have to say that [daughter's] birth was such a fantastic experience and having you there to help me made ALL the difference. You helped me stay calm, relaxed and focused and you were so spot on at 'reading' what was needed and when. Thank you! Thank you for helping me to have my ideal birthing day for [my daughter]. I hope we are able to stay in touch. Love from E & T
Daisy was my birth Doula when I had premature twins (36 weeks) in hospital on my own, she helped turn the whole thing into a magical experience, which I will never forget. Both Lilly and Callum are now 6 years old and doing great - thanks is not enough x - Rebecca
It's been three weeks since the birth of our son and I'm still on a high from the experience. Our home birth was one of the best days of my life and this was in no small part down to the incredible support we had from Daisy. We'd so enjoyed getting to know Daisy in the months leading up to the big day and I felt I could completely trust her when I went into labour. She not only supported my husband and I emotionally but also physically with her and my husband making an amazing team massaging me, wiping my brow and spurring me on with just the right words of encouragement. Daisy is a skilled, intuitive, compassionate and passionate doula. I highly recommend her. Hiring Daisy was one of the best decisions we have ever made.
Thank you so much Daisy. We couldn't and wouldn't have wanted to have done it without you!
Karina and John
words cannot express how grateful we are for everything you have done for us before, during and after the birth of our beautiful daughter Nyla. It has been an incredible journey and you played a huge part in helping us get the birth we wanted - to give Nyla the best start to her life.
All our love,
L and K
My husband and I chose Daisy as our doula for the birth of our second child, Oran. After a hospital birth first time round, which was good in the sense that I felt competent but not in a way that I felt I was listened too by the people assisting the birth (overworked, underpaid) I felt I needed someone there who could take care of MY wishes and leave me and my husband to get on with the important stuff. We chose Daisy and after attending a home-birth group we also decided to do it a home. 2 of the best decisions we made as it made the birth a fantastic experience! Yes, I enjoyed my birth it was great not having to worry about remembering details of my birth plan (which I actually never wrote down but rather just shared with Daisy through taking) and we trusted her completely to communicate with the midwifes on our behalf. Would recommend to everyone! - Kristiana
Daisy is a brilliant birth companion: professional, knowledgeable, supportive, experienced and intuitive. But I think what I valued most of all was that we laughed a lot together, which helped keep me relaxed through some not so easy moments. We hadn’t planned to have a doula, but circumstances led us to Daisy, and when it came to the day of our son’s birth, I was very glad to have her there. Her ability to be there when needed whilst also respecting our space and never intruding was amazing. Although the midwives were brilliant, there is something very special about the support a doula can give – especially someone with Daisy’s level of experience and wisdom. We are ever grateful!
Oli and Marcus
I'm not sure it's possible to express how wonderful and incredible and beautiful you helped make the birth of my first baby.
When I think back on how it all unfolded in the end - with the long labour, transfer from home and eventual interventions, I know it could have turned into something else- something I would have had bad memories of. Instead, your support gave the situation the continuity needed to help keep it my birth experience, despite entering 'the system' in hospital.
You were there helping to get the epidural topped up, you were holding my hand when I started pushing and you were there when [my son] came out into the world and I feel absolutely privileged to have had such support and love at that time.
I wanted also to share my 'best bits' with you:
You have the maddest job in the world and you do it so, so well.
You touched our lives in quite the loveliest and most profound way. Thank you
With all the love I have, J
Me and my partner were probably only going to have one child. Birth was literally a once in lifetime opportunity. We wanted it to be as smooth and beautiful as it possibly could be, knowing full well that it would be challenging and extreme and full of the unexpected. It made sense for us to get in touch with someone who had plenty of experience of birth and could help us be aware of all the options available to us. After meeting Daisy we knew that she was the right Doula for us, full of passion for what she does, full of knowledge, committed to birthing rights and aligned with our way of seeing the world.
As a partner, a father, I was grateful to have contact with Daisy as early as we did. Daisy was not just focused on the birthing experience, but her knowledge about pre-natal appointments and scans was extremely informed. She was able to go along with my partner when I was away for work and even if she didn’t attend she would check in with us and see how it went. She was incredible at empowering us to make the choices we wanted to make, making us realise our own agency in a system that sometimes felt like it was designed not to give us all the options available, and at worse fill us with fear so as to agree with choices that we didn’t necessarily want to make.
We wanted a home birth and were advised against it, because of my partners age she was classified as ‘high risk’. There were many things about the way organising a home birth that really put the fear into my partner, not just about home birth but about birth in general. Daisy understood that this was unacceptable and gave us advice backed up with statistics and articles that meant we could arm ourselves with our own knowledge and make our own informed choices. Of course we could have done this research ourselves, but Daisy’s extensive experience is worth more than all the statistics we could have gathered.
I have heard that many partners somehow feel like a Doula would compromise the birthing couples’ relationship. I can say the opposite. Daisy was able to take care of so many things around the birth that really allowed me to be fully present with my partner. Daisy is not there to impose her own will but there to facilitate your wishes for the birth and make sure they are carried out if at all possible. Daisy did not take up space but created space.
Our plan was to have a natural birth at home. Due to complications we ended up with a forceps delivery in hospital. I am so grateful for having Daisy along for the 4 day labour. At every point Daisy made sure that we were fully aware of all the options available to us. She was our most loyal advocate, our trusted sage, and a calm point of focus in the chaos of the unknown.
I can honestly say that without Daisy we would have had a very different and almost certainly much more difficult birth.
It was not only Daisy’s presence during the birth that was invaluable but the care and attentiveness with which she prepared us for birth and provided so much information, from concrete important facts, to hints and tips that make things much smoother. Being two freelancers I can say that Daisy’s fee was a lot of money, it was not a decision we took lightly but I can honestly say that it was incredible value for money.
Daisy, is a magnificent Doula and a thoroughly wonderful human being. I feel so lucky we had her there at this pivotal moment in our lives and am proud that we can now call her a friend.